Yeah, It's messed up... but,

His and Her problems were, many women existing in shakey relationship, some how think he will change, in most case scenarios, he won't. And most men make the mistake of thinking she will never leave, but she eventually did. Man... most men play on what i would call usually good home bound trusting women. Some men will physically and emotionally abuse such women, etc. Other words they dogg and physically, emotionally abuse the same women they claim to love, etc. Once trust has left a marriage, that marriage is busted, etc. A relationship with [NO] trust is like a car with [NO] gas, you can stay in it as long as you want, but trust me, it won't go anywhere. ?

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  • Damn, bro, you're still cooking with gas!

  • The problem in the scenario is that men and women on both sides adapt.

    Women: Women often adapt to bad situations. That's why they don't leave when they should. His psychological attacks on her was always aimed at her self-esteem. Without healthy self esteem she starts to think there is no where else to go because she "needs" him and can't do better than him. It is truly sad and maddening.

    Men: Men often adapt to a woman wanting to be submissive, as a power that then corrupts them. They become abusive because they never deserved to lead her and are afraid that she will find out he doesn't have the worth or value she's acting like he has. He's not a king. He's not even a nobleman. But she treats him that way and spoils him and many men cannot take being treated so well without it going to their heads. And then they over react trying to protect it because they're afraid she'll leave.

    This behavior of men is rewarded. Even if a respectable and virtuous woman will not, another will. The man is therefore reinforced by women who determine his value by shallow trappings like looks, car, or "bad boy" status because they think those guys can provide and protect them. And in a different world that was true. The old world was dominated by testosterone and ego. Now we're in the age of information. But a lot of women haven't kept up because part of what they find attractive is genetic.

    When these behaviors are reinforced the man becomes like Adam... tempted by none other than his wife to eat from her fruit. But her sweetness corrupts him and he asserts domination to keep her from leaving.

    This behavior of women choosing the wrong men is reinforced by images they see of alpha males in music videos lying about their wealth and prestige which can actually get them a measure of wealth and fame. Why? Because it sells and record companies reward those sales, not only because of profit but in order to keep creating the image of this person's success so that more rappers emulate it and preach the same doctrine of sex, drugs, and money because that's what appeals to their audiences.

    This manipulation that creates these images is fake and therefore these same type of guys have to be fake and have to lie to women so that they buy into the value proposition they pretend to have. But they are in and out of jail because they're poor and lack what they need to survive in this world. Their image of survival is a lie. It's fake. And when women figure this out they naturally want to leave and that's why the man feels the need to hold her hostage by attacking her and her self-esteem; convincing her that she isn't better than him when he knows she is.

  • Has it come to a point where black men and women are deliberately deceiving each other? What about independent thinking, pride, integrity, compassion and respect for each other?

  • The only hope is that the good ones all find each other. A lot of people deceive because they feel like they have to, to keep what they have. Some people make mistakes and try to hide it. Others deceive because that's was always the plan; because they don't care about the truth because they don't have integrity. Sadly, to them, women in general become only toys for their amusement and they don't love, they enslave.

  • ZealotX wrote: »
    The only hope is that the good ones all find each other. A lot of people deceive because they feel like they have to, to keep what they have. Some people make mistakes and try to hide it. Others deceive because that's was always the plan; because they don't care about the truth because they don't have integrity. Sadly, to them, women in general become only toys for their amusement and they don't love, they enslave.

    I agree.
  • Well it kinda goes back to what i've been saying, :If you really want da fly, then git rid of da shyt that weighs yo azz down.: such a comment is definitely self explanatory! Quit staying and hoping that shyt will change, etc. either make it change, or shyt ,move on! Why stay anywhere getting physically abused, etc., when you can leave. Yeah... I've heard that, but... "I love him" BS! Gfb gone....
  • Never take anyone for granted 🤷🏾‍♂️it's just that simple

  • Never take anyone for granted 🤷🏾‍♂️it's just that simple

    Pretty much. Unless, you want to find your sugar in somebody else's Koolaid.
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